February 2012
47 posts
Reblog if you'll answer sex related questions.
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10 Things the American Media Really Need to Learn... →
isthisthevoid:
Great piece:
Of all the national conversations suffering for lack of rigorous debate and actual facts, the sexual conversation is one most likely to turn otherwise professional journalists and pundits into alarmists and preachers.
When editors and writers aren’t just playing to America’s persistent sexual ignorance, they’re deepening it: pegging stories to stereotypes, ...
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Link: Mardi Gras, polyamory, and the LGBTIQ... →
While a decision prohibiting a local polyamory group to march in Mardi Gras Parade was eventually overturned, that their exclusion was even considered raises questions about how we view the LGBTIQ community, writes Tommy Berne.
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Link: Open relationships - Germany's polys speak... →
The polyamory community in the United States has an estimated 100,000 members - far more than in Germany. According to Gottwald, there are growing numbers of polys who regularly meet in Germany. But they are still encountering intolerance, according to Michael. ‘People do not understand. Normally, a man betrays his partner and has a secret affair.’
Polyamories, on the...
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“Jealousy is most common when somebody feels insecure, mistreated, threatened, or...”
– More Than Two | Polyamory: The Theory of Jealousy Management (via a-blog-called-everything)
Well said.
(via connectedbypoly)
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30 Days of Kink Days 3 and 4
I missed yesterday, so today I’m doing two.
Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky? I honestly can’t say. I feel like I’ve always been kinky, but before I figured it out I simply thought I was a hopeless and twisted pervert. I’m no longer hopeless. Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks? Hard to place a finger on it, but I do remember finding a...
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Link: The problem with the "f*uck skinny b*itches"... →
Although these memes successfully call into question the valuing and concomitant degradation of two specific body types (i.e. very thin and curvaceous respectively) they in no way move women’s bodies outside of the male gaze. As Heather Cromarty posted over at Sociological images, these memes pit women against each other in antagonistic comparison, and reinforce male approval as the pinnacle of...
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Re: Fun fact of the day:
I hope you don’t mind me chiming in with a friendly counterpoint. Your statement, although completely understandable, is a false equivalency. You’re essentially comparing a door (open relationship) to a house (polyamory).
I’m in a polyamorous open relationship, however, the open relationship came first. When we started dating we both agreed we didn’t want to be in a...
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Link: SHE HAS NO HEAD! – NO, IT’S NOT EQUAL →
If you have any interest in gender issues and comics (and why comics continue to fail to attract what should be the fastest growing audience - empowered geek women) this is a solid read.
sick of seeing this completely flawed and tunnel vision argument repeated ad nauseam, I decided to break it down once and for all in my column. Because while you can personally decide that you LIKE seeing...
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30 Days of Kink: Day 2: List your kinks.
I hate to list “my kinks,” because I’m generally open to trying new things (if someone really wants to see a list of my kinks send me a note and I’ll let you friend me on FetLife). That said, I have a strong attraction to electricity, fire, paddles, canes, and spanking. I’m interested in interrogation play, but haven’t found the opportunity to try out the scenes kicking around my skull. I...
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Local polyamorous community ditches monogamy for... →
“Jealousy doesn’t make any sense to me. I can’t really wrap my head around it.” Jihan said “I can wrap my head around being insecure, or being afraid, or being angry or these other sort of singular emotions, but the idea of jealousy, which is sort of a conglomerate of emotions, it doesn’t work for me because when my partner is interested in someone else,...
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Link: What It’s Like To Be A Parent In An Open... →
It’s movie night at my house. Six kids are piled up on the couch downstairs watching How To Train Your Dragon and devouring pizza. My girlfriend and I steal a private moment together while our husbands settle the kids in.
We say a sleepy hello, she gets a work call, and I comfort a sad toddler. End of moment. It’s chaos, but happy chaos. There’s a lot of laughter and smiles amid the juggling...
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Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM...
I don’t want this tumblr to be all kink, but I want to take a swing at this 30 days of BDSM challenge.
I identify as a Top, because it brings me the most pleasure when I’m bringing pleasure to my partner, if that makes any sense. I like planning the scenes and initiating the actions. I like to see the end result of what I come up with and how much trust my partner is willing to...
sooooooooo….when do I get to merge my tumblr and pinterest worlds?
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Link: Conceptualizing Negotiations without Boxes,... →
Solid read about what should be Universal kink scene etiquette. It breaks down to essentially not putting the onus on the stranger you might like to play with by forcing them to open up their socially unaccepted closet before you do. When you’re adventuring in kink, especially early on, it can be hard to break the conditioning of admitting to other people what you like. Even in a kink...
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Yes, We Are Polyamorous: 1st Polyamorous Union... →
adorablepolycouples:
On January 13th of 2012, the triad Anita Barbosa, Naldo Costa and Suh Lee (picture), brazilians, gave a step forward to get their poly relationship legally recognized.
“For the first time in history, we got a document with a state seal/stamp (which means, it’s suitable for legal purposes)…
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d'lirium: #3. Moaning Was an Invitation to Group... →
klaries:
Quick question: Who makes more noise in bed, men or women? Believe it or not, there haven’t actually been many studies on the subject, so you should probably just rely on anecdotal evidence. Who do you hear more in hotels? Who is louder in your own bed? Which grandparent can you hear from…
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Link: Hotel room for three →
sherlocked-bee:
This.
Is.
Amazing.
People get frowned upon so much for this sort of behaviour, but as a polyamarous girl in an open relationship, I think its a fantastic idea and deserves more notice!
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Open Relationship, FTW!
I recently discovered a woman I’d been messaging on OKC worked in the same company as my partner (very large company, so the possibility of the two knowing each other was slim). I sent an email asking “do you know her?” This is what she said in response (name has been removed to protect the innocent):
“Is she really open/poly/nonmonogamous? Because DAMN, boy, **** is a...
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mountainlaura:
“Just Me, Just Me ” Sweet Marie, she loves just me (She also loves Maurice McGhee). No she don’t, she loves just me (She also loves Louise Dupree). No she don’t, she loves just me (She also loves the willow tree). No she don’t, she loves just me! (Poor, poor fool, why can’t you see She can love others and still love thee.)” ― Shel Silverstein, Where the Sidewalk Ends
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Closet Relationships: Are you in a secret... →
Sharing because this may be of interest to tumblfriends.
closetrelationships:
This is a blog for people who are in secret relationships. Can’t tell your parents, your family, your friends, your coworkers? Having to hide your love from someone?
This is for the same-sex lovers, the polyamorous, the long-distance, the taboo. Send us your stories of unseen romance and stealthy…
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Link: Polyamory Without Rules, and a World Without... →
This is an excellent response to Franklin Veaux’s excellent take on rules in non-monogamy. I personally have a lot of thoughts regarding rules (which I prefer to call “comfort zones,” because “rules” break, a violent act suggesting damage, while “comfort zones” can grow and expand) and I’m hoping to sit down this weekend and pontificate via tumblr....
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Great article about "Polyamorous Languages in a... →
evespanopticon:
‘There Aren’t Words for What We Do or How We Feel So We Have To Make Them Up’: Constructing Polyamorous Languages in a Culture of Compulsory Monogamy
Abstract: Polyamory is an emerging sexual story that troubles mononormativity: the dominant discourse of monogamy which is reproduced and perpetuated in everyday conversation and saturates mainstream media depictions. Through an...
Sorrow Songs: Invaluable resources for healthy... →
sorrowsongs:
I’m polyamorous, kinky, and queer. There’s a lot of info out there for straight, monogamous, vanilla relationships (not all of it good, mind you, but a lot of information).If you’re like me, though, you might be confused and want advice, and being young (or not so young) and living an alternative…
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Polycule: Dear superpolyfriends: →
polycule:
I am really upset at some of the comments I’ve seen on this post (as well as responses to the original poster), and several other similar posts from other people inquiring or passing judgment on polyamory.
The comments that are upsetting me aren’t from the people who don’t understand…
This is one of the reasons it took me so long to openly become part of the poly community....
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WatchMaher’s New Rule: Atheism And Religion Are ‘Not Two Sides Of The Same Coin’
Ending The Sexual Dark Age →
Me too.
a-blog-called-everything:
I highly recommend this podcast
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Link: Newt, thank you for mainstreaming the "open... →
Modern Poly takes a look at the discussion surrounding Newt Gingrich’s dishonest approach to an open marriage.
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OkCupid For the Polyamorous →
I’ve been flirting with restarting my OKC profile. I shut it off in 2009 when I realized being in a serious relationship with two people was my maximum level at the time. I’ll need to keep these tips close to heart and do some new keywording to my profile. I was incredibly resistant to the label polyamorous in 2009 and probably only used nonmonogamous in my profile.
polyhips:
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January 2012
20 posts
Unicorn Emma: Loves Times Three →
unicornemma:
I just finished reading “Love Times Three: Our True Story of a Polygamous Marriage” by the Dargers. It’s the true story of their lives as Fundamentalist Mormons practicing polygamy—one man and his three wives. There’s a little in there about what they believe, but it isn’t a book about what they…
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Link: [Sex on the Silver Screen] No Strings... →
The above link is an honest look at the Kutcher/Portman vehicle “No Strings Attached” by a pro-sex positive blogger. (Fun fact: the plot for this film was allegedly stolen from Gordon Bechard who pitched it before independently producing it as “Friends (with Benefits).”)
